I am proud of my 8 year old daughter.
Yesterday she was brave.
In the face of loss and grief she chose love, kindness, creativity, compassion and gratitude.
She lost her father five years ago to brain cancer when she was just three years old. Her grandfather (my father) died from Alzheimers disease three months ago.
Our loss hurts.
My daughter wishes she knew her father and that she had her own memories of him. She misses my Dad and cries for me too because now I have also lost my father.
Her teacher asked her earlier in the week if she would be okay if the class made Fathers Day Cards. She said, “yes”. She explained that if she had said “No”, then all the other kids would miss out on celebrating fathers day and demonstrating their love for their fathers.
So she bravely participated in making Father’s Day cards with her class. She decided to make a card for her Uncle instead. It is his first fathers day. We will be thrilled to see him and his gorgeous baby daughter this Sunday.
Her classmates asked her why she was making a card for her Uncle rather than her Dad and she shared our story. Other kids shared their stories of separated parents, estranged parents and deceased grandparents. My daughter found these discussions hard but they also connected to her others. Every family has challenges.
We have wonderful men in our lives. We sent love to all of them as I tucked her into bed last night. Her uncle, family friends, my father in law and my boyfriend. We are very lucky to have them.
So many people will be being brave in anticipation of Fathers day and on the day itself.
Blessings and love to all of them.