Just a few weeks ago when my father was dying, I dropped my kids off to school and before I went to his bedside – I went for a snorkel. It felt incongruous that in the last few days of his life I would choose to play. But I did and I am glad I... Continue Reading →
Allowing chinks in the armor protecting my heart. Dating while grieving, vulnerability and trust. Also published in Elephant Journal
I am inspired by the strong beautiful eucalyptus trees that I see every day - they seem to be continually shedding bark. As I release what was once protective "strips of bark" the process is usually messy. It takes a while to unravel and untangle each strand. It feels revealing, exposing vulnerabilities and new layers of myself. Yet it also feels freeing and liberating. As each layer peels away I find shiny colourful new bark ready for new connections and more growth.
A few days ago I returned to a beautiful bay beach that has always had a little magic for me. It is in a National Park and is accessed by walking in several kilometres though bush full of wildflowers, tall gnarled eucalyptus gums with dusty deep pink bark, sandstone cliffs and vibrant green ferns. When you arrive there... Continue Reading →
My boyfriend's approach to getting to know my children. My boyfriend and I have reached a point where we would like to spend more time together. Given his kids and mine are under ten years of age, spending more time together means spending time with each other’s kids as well. We are both mindful that... Continue Reading →
Just after I created this blog my boyfriend Darren said to me "This is a little out there - but you haven't introduced me to your late husband yet. I am reading about him on your blog, you mention him every now and then and there are photos in your house. Perhaps you should formally... Continue Reading →
Readers are wondering how my boyfriend feels about me sharing my story and the part that he plays in posts on my blog! His enthusiasm, encouragement, ideas and support have been instrumental in the past month as I created this blog. He was as excited as I was when I first got it up and running. Our relationship... Continue Reading →
I feel a weight of responsibility to make sure that my children feel their father's presence in their lives and feel that they have a good sense of him even though they will have minimal memories of their own. We have photos, we have mementoes and a chest of drawers of his favourite things and I... Continue Reading →