I must, Surrender and Trust

When I became a young widow and single mum, I tried to return to my default way of living - before children and before cancer. It was: Achieve, Control, Independence, Busyness. I found that returning to that way of living was impossible. It took me a while to listen to my heart whisper "Surrender and Trust". A... Continue Reading →

How Counselling helped me – Guidance, Independent Listening and Compassion

I had always hoped that I was psychologically strong enough, resilient enough and optimistic enough to cope with life's challenges without needing to see a counsellor. However, when a curveball of cancer knocked my young family off course, I conceded after some time that I needed to subdue my ego and seek counselling. Counselling sessions became a... Continue Reading →

Living – while your dearly loved one is dying

Just a few weeks ago when my father was dying, I dropped my kids off to school and before I went to his bedside – I went for a snorkel. It felt incongruous that in the last few days of his life I would choose to play. But I did and I am glad I... Continue Reading →

What do you do? (or Who are you?)

When you have young children, you meet people all the time through playgroups/daycare and then another new community when children start school. It is a time in your life when you usually share a lot of information about yourself to build friendships and support networks. You disclose what you do for work, how you live and from that you find commonalities. My husband and I had a significant difference to other parents that we met. We were riding the terminal brain cancer roller coaster.

How are you?

Responding to "How are you?"  & why I was grateful that widows no longer wear black.  Exchanging simple every day greetings of “Hello and how are you?” often felt excruciating when I was caring for my husband as he was dying and then when I was recently widowed and intensely grieving. I realised that for... Continue Reading →

Acupuncture

Acupuncture became essential in keeping me well while balancing three challenging roles: brain cancer carer , mother of a newborn and a toddler Corporate Commercial Manager and then as a young widow and single parent. At different stages I developed chronic eczema on my face, alopecia (bald spots with hair falling out), tight muscles in my neck and shoulders,... Continue Reading →

Releasing rather than Resisting Anger – The Monster of Circumstance

It took me several years to acknowledge the residual anger that I had following the diagnosis of my husband with brain cancer and his eventual death. I was a young widow with two young children and the life that I had envisaged was no longer possible.  I had layer upon layer of anger that I resisted expressing.... Continue Reading →

A Rant about Remedies

There is a time and place for remedies - But remedies can not cure cancer! I use remedies, nutrition and alternative medicine for my own healing and health. They help nourish, soothe and calm my body, mind and spirit. For a cancer patient, they also provide provide comfort and hope that you are doing all you can to make your... Continue Reading →

Yoga – calming the mind and the body

Yoga has been invaluable to me. It has provided me with so many tools and lessons. I had dabbled in yoga and meditation on and off over the years but I did not fully embrace yoga and appreciate its benefits until about two years after my husband was diagnosed with brain cancer. My husband was... Continue Reading →

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