Clare Smart. Celebrant and Blogger: Life as a Brain Cancer Carer then Young Widow/Solo Parent
Also published by - Option B.org. Just after I created this blog my boyfriend at the time said to me "This is a little out there - but you haven't introduced me to your late husband yet. I am reading about him on your blog, you mention him every now and then and there are... Continue Reading →
Accepting that just like there can be "four seasons in one day"when grieving there can be "many emotions in one day".
Small unsolicited acts of kindness are like tiny rainbows that provide light and love through the heavy fog of grief and challenging times. People often say "Let me know there if there is anything I can do". When people said it to me I would usually smile and say thank you but rarely take them up on... Continue Reading →
Every scan, every check up is a mini rollercoaster. The anticipation, the preparation (the tests and scans), waiting in the waiting room to see the doctor, the review with the doctor and then hopefully the relief that is all ok - all is stable - until the next check up. My late husband, Mick, had a... Continue Reading →
The kids and I miss my late husband every day. We feel his absence. So many triggers. Yet I am grateful for all the memories and the moments. Even though it hurts. I'm grateful for the love. Grief is missing. And Missing is Love. "I believe in missing things. I enjoy the feeling of missing. It doesn't have to imply... Continue Reading →
A list of some of my favourite books & blogs. But first... Support groups didn't work for me during the different phases of my journey as a brain cancer carer and then young widow and single mum. Mick and I did not have the time or the headspace to join a brain cancer support group... Continue Reading →
There is a time and place for remedies - But remedies can not cure cancer! I use remedies, nutrition and alternative medicine for my own healing and health. They help nourish, soothe and calm my body, mind and spirit. For a cancer patient, they also provide provide comfort and hope that you are doing all you can to make your... Continue Reading →
The tentative first steps and searching for a definition for a new relationship.
I feel a weight of responsibility to make sure that my children feel their father's presence in their lives and feel that they have a good sense of him even though they will have minimal memories of their own. We have photos, we have mementoes and a chest of drawers of his favourite things and I... Continue Reading →
Rainbows & Rollercoasters 